A psychologist with a reputation for penetrating to the heart of complex parenting issues joins forces with a physician and bestselling author to tackle one of the most disturbing and misunderstood trends of our time -- peers replacing parents in the lives of our children. Dr. Neufeld has dubbed this phenomenon peer orientation, which refers to the tendency of children and youth to look to their peers for direction: for a sense of right and wrong, for values, identity and codes of behaviour. But peer orientation undermines family cohesion, poisons the school atmosphere, and fosters an aggressively hostile and sexualized youth culture. It provides a powerful explanation for schoolyard bullying and youth violence; its effects are painfully evident in the context of teenage gangs and criminal activity, in tragedies such as in Littleton, Colorado; Tabor, Alberta and Victoria, B.C. It is an escalating trend that has never been adequately described or contested until Hold On to Your Kids. Once understood, it becomes self-evident -- as do the solutions. Hold On to Your Kids will restore parenting to its natural intuitive basis and the parent-child relationship to its rightful preeminence. The concepts, principles and practical advice contained in Hold On to Your Kids will empower parents to satisfy their children´s inborn need to find direction by turning towards a source of authority, contact and warmth. ´´Something has changed. One can sense it, one can feel it, just not find the words for it. Children are not quite the same as we remember being. They seem less likely to take their cues from adults, less inclined to please those in charge, less afraid of getting into trouble.Parenting, too, seems to have changed. Our parents seemed more confident, more certain of themselves and had more impact on us, for better or for worse. For many, parenting does not feel natural. Adults through the ages have complained about children being less respectful of the International authority on child development Gordon Neufeld, Ph.D., joins forces with bestselling author Gabor Maté, M.D., to tackle one of the most disturbing trends of our time: Children today looking to their peers for direction-their values, identity, and codes of behavior. This ´´peer orientation´´ undermines family cohesion, interferes with healthy development, and fosters a hostile and sexualized youth culture. Children end up becoming overly conformist, desensitized, and alienated, and being ´´cool´´ matters more to them than anything else. Hold On to Your Kids explains the causes of this crucial breakdown of parental influence-and demonstrates ways to ´´reattach´´ to sons and daughters, establish the proper hierarchy in the home, make kids feel safe and understood, and earn back your children´s loyalty and love. This updated edition also specifically addresses the unprecedented parenting challenges posed by the rise of digital devices and social media. By helping to reawaken instincts innate to us all, Neufeld and Maté will empower parents to be what nature intended: a true source of contact, security, and warmth for their children.
It rare to find a naked woman in your cabin when you come in from outside chores. But it was only a visitor who had come to see me before. She was a goddess, and dressed in gossamer. Not that I minded how she was dressed, much. But the last time she had brought a serious message for me. One that had changed my life. So what did she want this time? Excerpt: At first, I thought there was a naked woman in my cabin, reading my books. And then I realized, it was just my goddess. Come to visit again, to remind me again of what I should be doing. It was that gossamer outfit she wore. You know, the stuff made out of spider webbing. Thinner than silk and almost see-through, but tough enough to be tear-proof. ´´Well, hello there, big boy. About time you showed up.´´ She unwound herself from the desk chair she was reading in, set the book down on the desktop and slunk toward me. ´´You´ve been busy since we last had a conversation.´´ I looked her up and down with a glance and then focused on her eyes. She pouted. ´´You know I dress just the way you want me to, the way you expect. So if you don´t like this (but I can tell you do) I´ll just change into something more comfortable - for you.´´ At that she had on one of my flannel shirts, buttoned only half-way up, and some soft shorts I wore in hot weather to be able to write comfortably when I knew I wasn´t going outside. She continued moving toward me and I could tell that these two items were all she wore. At last she was close enough to put her arms around my neck, but only touching there. ´´Because I need to have your attention, but not distract you so much. This way you can look into my eyes without strain,´´ she said. Of course I could feel her heat between us, and smell the cedar and violet scent of her. ´´Well, of course. You think better when you´re stimulated - subtle does it, doesn´t it?´´ The goddess purred. ´´And what is it that you need to tell me?´´ I asked. ´´You´ve been doubting yourself. That´s not good.´´ She replied. ´´Oh, those thoughts about not having the sales I should, not having the audience or network to bring in real income from my writing?´´ ´´Yes those self-limiting thoughts of yours that only hold you back. You can hear me reminding you that the world - your world - is what you think it is. That you have to give before you can get. That faith is internally created, and you need to practice it. That belief creates fact. All these things.´´ The goddess took one hand to stroke the edge of my right ear. ´´That´s all true, but…´´ I started to explain. Now she put that finger on my lips. ´´Hush. I already know what you are going to say. And it´s just not true.´´ .... Scroll Up and Get Your Copy Now.
I could fix anything. Since I was old enough to hold a wrench. Yeah, weird for a girl. There were people out there that didn´t want me to succeed. Some because I was a genius, some because I was a girl. They couldn´t understand advanced steam technology, turbines replacing piston-drive – and didn´t think any ´´bimbo´´ could, either. Most of those who caused me trouble had a worse problem - they were trapped in their own mind. And didn´t want to be freed. When I met my former high school classmate, he gave me the clue that brilliant old me never thought of. He had discovered a secret that allowed me to get around their roadblocks, and to go ahead and invent anything I imagined – at a vast profit. And he ended up chang ing my life in ways I could never imagine... Excerpt: ´´Life isn´t fair!´´ I cried out to no one in particular in the cluttered machine shed I called my shop. I would have run to my mother´s skirts to bury my tear-soaked face in her lap, except I´d long been trained that this would only make the teasing worse. I was better off getting a clean work rag - one that didn´t have oil or grease on it, or something worse - and wipe them away. ´´Just suck it up, bimbo.´´ That´s what I learned to tell myself. With five older brothers, I got treated like just another son in the family. They all taught me from an early age that tears didn´t matter. And even if they got a tongue-lashing from Mom, I´d still inherit a little hell-on-earth later for every story I blubbered to her. Not that I´d ever get touched, although that happened. And they´d get away with it as long as they didn´t leave a mark or rip any of my clothes. But the worst was when they would wreck something I was working on. And that´s how I taught them to leave me alone. Because I was a better ´´fixer´´ than any of them. Once they found that out, they´d bring their stuff to me rather than try to figure it out for themselves. And when the teasing got real bad, they´d wind up with something of theirs suddenly out start to run badly - or wouldn´t run at all. Right when they needed it the most. Of course, they couldn´t prove I´d done it. So they quickly learned to stay on my good side. And stay out of my shop. And never, ever, ´´borrow´´ my tools. Because it wouldn´t stop until they did. I was just built that way. ´´Eye for an eye´´ type of gal. ´´Hell hath no fury...´´ and all that. When they started racing, life got better for me. They learned that their little sister was an advantage no one else had. The machines I worked on for them gave them an edge - they performed better, ran faster, lasted longer than anyone else´s. And if they wanted something special done, I´d find little gifts on my workbench - or somewhere I´d notice. That worked just great. They won their races, and my life got easier. Until I discovered how nice boys could be outside my family. Ones who didn´t need their machines fixed or tuned. The ones that gave me stuff because they liked me. But wasn´t prepared to find someone who really understood me. Even my parents didn´t get the scope of what they had created... Scroll Up and Get Your Copy Now
Rick, Ezekiel, Gregory, Negan: each man holds the fate of their community in their hands, and war is on the horizon. Young adult. While Rick takes the group to the Kingdom, Negan takes the opportunity to start a war.
Part of Penguin´s beautiful hardback Clothbound Classics series, designed by the award-winning Coralie Bickford-Smith, these delectable and collectible editions are bound in high-quality colourful, tactile cloth with foil stamped into the design. The story grew out of a map that led to imaginary treasure, devised during a holiday in Scotland by Stevenson and his nephew. The tale is told by an adventurous boy, Jim Hawkins, who gets hold of a treasure map and sets off with an adult crew in search of the buried treasure. Among the crew, however, is the treacherous Long John Silver who is determined to keep the treasure for himself. Stevenson´s first full-length work of fiction brought him immediate fame and continues to captivate readers of all ages.
A fairy tale for adults, inspired by sleep, and just a little fooling around with a drop of meaning. Two merchants, obdudya son come with his father to the fair, in the capital Zlatoglavets-grad, where the prince is going to hold a great tournament between the best warriors from around the world. Having gotten drunk on joys, fools enter themselves in the list of participants for the place of princely knights and only sobering, they understand what they got involved in. It is then that the mysterious enchanted hero comes to the rescue ...
An international bestseller and winner of the Prix Goncourt, The Erl-King is a magisterial tale of innocence, perversion and obsession. It follows the passage of strange, gentle Abel Tiffauges from submissive schoolboy to adult misfit - a man without a sense of belonging until he finds himself a prisoner of war, and then a teacher, and then the ´ogre´ of a Nazi school at the castle of Kaltenborn. Taking us more deeply into the dark heart of fascism than any novel since The Tin Drum, Tournier´s masterpiece rivets us until the very last page, when Abel meets his mystic fate in the collapsing ruins of the Third Reich; it is a novel that shocks us, dazzles us, and above all holds us spellbound.
A BEST BOOK OF THE YEAR: NPR, Slate, Publishers Weekly, Goodreads Following the success of The Accidental Billionaires and Moneyball comes Console Wars-a mesmerizing, behind-the-scenes business thriller that chronicles how Sega, a small, scrappy gaming company led by an unlikely visionary and a team of rebels, took on the juggernaut Nintendo and revolutionized the video game industry. In 1990, Nintendo had a virtual monopoly on the video game industry. Sega, on the other hand, was just a faltering arcade company with big aspirations and even bigger personalities. But that would all change with the arrival of Tom Kalinske, a man who knew nothing about videogames and everything about fighting uphill battles. His unconventional tactics, combined with the blood, sweat and bold ideas of his renegade employees, transformed Sega and eventually led to a ruthless David-and-Goliath showdown with rival Nintendo. The battle was vicious, relentless, and highly profitable, eventually sparking a global corporate war that would be fought on several fronts: from living rooms and schoolyards to boardrooms and Congress. It was a once-in-a-lifetime, no-holds-barred conflict that pitted brother against brother, kid against adult, Sonic against Mario, and the US against Japan. Based on over two hundred interviews with former Sega and Nintendo employees, Console Wars is the underdog tale of how Kalinske miraculously turned an industry punchline into a market leader. It´s the story of how a humble family man, with an extraordinary imagination and a gift for turning problems into competitive advantages, inspired a team of underdogs to slay a giant and, as a result, birth a $60 billion dollar industry.
Muriel Spark´s The Prime of Miss Jean Brodie includes an introduction by Candia McWilliam in Penguin Modern Classics. Romantic, heroic, comic and tragic, unconventional schoolmistress Jean Brodie has become an iconic figure in post-war fiction. Her glamour, unconventional ideas and manipulative charm hold dangerous sway over her girls at the Marcia Blaine Academy - ´the crème de la crème´ - who become the Brodie ´set´, introduced to a privileged world of adult games that they will never forget. Muriel Spark´s The Prime of Miss Jean Brodie was adapted into a successful stage play, and later a film directed by Ronald Neame and starring Maggie Smith. Muriel Spark (1918 - 2006) wrote poetry, stories, and biographies as well as a remarkable series of novels, including The Prime of Miss Jean Brodie (1961), The Mandelbaum Gate (1965) which received the James Tait Black Prize, and The Public Image (1968) and Loitering with Intent (1981), both of which were shortlisted for the Booker Prize. Spark was awarded the T.S. Eliot Award for poetry in 1992, and the David Cohen Prize for literature in 1997. If you enjoyed The Prime of Miss Jean Brodie, you might like Evelyn Waugh´s Brideshead Revisited, also available in Penguin Modern Classics. ´A sublimely funny book ... it is a book to be read by all ... unforgettable and universal´ Candia McWilliam, author of Debatable Land
Now a major motion picture: Love, Simon, starring Nick Robinson and Katherine Langford! William C. Morris Award Winner: Best Young Adult Debut of the Year National Book Award Longlist ´´A remarkable gift of a novel.´´-Andrew Smith, author of Grasshopper Jungle ´´I am so in love with this book.´´-Nina LaCour, author of Hold Still ´´Feels timelessly, effortlessly now.´´-Tim Federle, author of Better Nate Than Ever ´´The best kind of love story.´´-Alex Sanchez, Lambda Award-winning author of Rainbow Boys and Boyfriends with Girlfriends Sixteen-year-old and not-so-openly gay Simon Spier prefers to save his drama for the school musical. But when an email falls into the wrong hands, his secret is at risk of being thrust into the spotlight. Now change-averse Simon has to find a way to step out of his comfort zone before he´s pushed out-without alienating his friends, compromising himself, or fumbling a shot at happiness with the most confusing, adorable guy he´s never met. Incredibly funny and poignant, this twenty-first-century coming-of-age, coming out story-wrapped in a geek romance-is a knockout of a debut novel by Becky Albertalli.